The
True Gentleman
The True Gentleman is the
man whose conduct proceeds from good will and an acute sense of propriety, and whose
self-control is equal to all emergencies; who does not make the poor man conscious of his
poverty,
the obscure man of his obscurity, or any man of his inferiority or deformity; who is
himself humbled if necessity compels him to humble another; who does not flatter wealth,
cringe before power, or boast of his own possessions or achievements; who speaks with
frankness but always with sincerity and sympathy; whose deed follows his word; who thinks
of the rights and feeling of others, rather than his own; and who appears well in any
company, a man with whom honor is sacred and virtue safe.
-John Walter Wayland
For more than half a century, SAE pledges
have recited "The True Gentleman," and no other words, save perhaps those of the
ritual of initiation, have more nearly represented the ideals of Sigma Alpha Epsilon. It
may be that few members have ever been able to exemplify all the attributes set forth in
the statement, but it does set forth the perfecting purpose of the Fraternity.
Many years ago Judge Walter B. Jones,
past Eminent Supreme Archon of SAE, came upon "The True Gentleman" and printed
it in an Alabama Baptist quarterly, which he edited. He sent a copy of the magazine to
John Moseley, who was powerfully struck by the elegant words which accorded with his own
philosophy of gentlemanliness. Moseley started using it in the Leadership Schools in the
1930s and it caught on quickly in chapters all across the land. Although John Moseley
never claimed authorship, many came to believe that he had composed "The True
Gentleman." Because SAEs had no idea who the author was, The Phoenix indicated that
the piece was simply "anonymous."
In the 1970s Phoenix editor Joe Walt
discovered that "The True Gentleman" was also printed in a manual used at the
U.S. Naval Academy in Annapolis and that its author was John Walter Wayland. It turns out
that many years ago The Baltimore Sun conducted a competition for the best definition of a
true gentleman. John Walter Wayland's submission was the winner. Thus it was printed in
the Baltimore newspaper and was repeated in many publications thereafter.
No matter who the author, "The True
Gentleman" reflects a major part of the substance of the ritual of Sigma Alpha
Epsilon. Pledges memorize it and are asked to recite it. Awards are given to brothers who
are thought best to exemplify it. Why do we regard it so highly, and what's in it for you
as a member of Sigma Alpha Epsilon?
Every organization is strengthened by
tangible forms of a ritual. Athletic teams have mascots; churches have written rituals.
Commercial enterprises have slogans, and countless private organizations of individuals,
who have chosen to belong for any variety of reasons, have statements of philosophy that
define and express their beliefs. Not only does "The True Gentleman" remind each
brother and pledge of his Fraternity's code of behavior, it also serves that same function
for non-members. And since it is something every member and pledge of Sigma Alpha Epsilon
have in common, it helps bond us, providing part of the glue that holds us together. After
all, gentlemanliness is the starting point and the indispensable quality of lasting
friendships.
Section IV of The Phoenix
Past ESR G. Robert Hamrdla
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